I have a lovely daughter/son in transition between the girl she never was and the man she is becoming. It’s hard to find good resources, comments and such about this phase of development. While I support him unconditionally, she/he does not return the favour, and hasn’t spoken to me in over 5 years. I have no idea why not.
I wish I could speak with him about this change, about other things, too. This blog is full of wisdom and I understand it. Maybe one day my newly minted son and I can share it. For now, just sending the message through the ether to let him know I understand. And wish him well.
Wish he’d feel the same way towards me.
I am viewing the last two years more like a clarification than a transition. I started out butch, I incorporated trans*, I am still muddling through. Either I will figure it out or I will just keep reading and thinking.
What does it mean to me (this week) to say that I am trans* but I am not transitioning? I’ve been reading the classic text, Harry Benjamin‘s “The Transsexual Phenomenon”. It is out of print (and very dated since it was written in 1966 post Jorgensen but pre Stonewall); you can download it from tgmeds.org.uk/downs/phenomenon.pdf (I would provide the link but I got bounced out of the WordPress Reader last week for linking to something that annoyed the system and I am not taking any chances this week). The is the link to last week’s post.
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