The occasional wallowing, or how I wish I could chat with Sophia Loren


I have a lot of friends who are dealing with chronic illness or the illness of loved ones or bereavement or even the loss of pets. So when I saw this article, it called to me: "The Other Side of Grief" by Whitney Akers. The article links to a group of stories about how people coped…

Writing classes, or how to spend lots of money without really having to write


I'm guilty. I've been signing up for writing classes since I started writing way back when my youngest was 2 or so (He's in his late 20's). I've done college classes (excellent), online courses (variable).  Like Claudia Casper, I love literary festivals as well (SO fun and full of kindred spirits and one was in Iceland,…

On being seen…


There's a lovely foolish Monty Python "military" training film on 'How Not To Be Seen.'  In the clip, people are hiding, NOT BEING SEEN, and then they are asked to stand up. Once they do so, they are either shot or blown to smithereens. I feel viewing this in my formative teens MAY have had…

Prepared to grieve


The tragedy of the Humboldt hockey players bus crash and the loss of all those sweet boys was and is truly horrible. I feel for parents and friends and other teams and everyone involved. Especially the driver that survived... But while this is happening, and we respond by doing things like putting hockey sticks outside…

Hanging out in a liminal space


I have a feeling of being in transition, of being in between the not anymore and the not yet. I've been chewing on it ever since I saw my dear friend incarcerated in his body from a stroke, and struggling in a nursing home. The push onto the threshold is also because this is my…

Oh, Mr. Neville…


One of the blessings of my enforced by MS flare-up idleness is that I have been able to plunge myself into a myriad of books, to wallow in lives not my own, to lay on my patented "chaise short" (an antique chaise with the merit of being less than 5 feet long and thus fitting…

“If we are not sometimes baffled and amazed and undone by the world around us, rendered speechless and stunned, perhaps we are not paying close enough attention.” Ben Marcus


"So You Want To Be a Writer" - excellent article by the Guardian. I love the Guardian. A voice of sanity in a baffling world.  

Fuck-up Nights


Just read about this group of people who get together now and again and talk about their failures over a few drinks  - sharing where they've messed up, telling what they learned, if anything, sharing that's okay to make a complete mess of things.  Here's the article. I think this is a great idea. Ever…

Christmas Star


I have a brass star that sits on the top of my Christmas tree. No matter the size or state of the tree, the star is there. It matches the star that lived on the top of my family Christmas tree; the one made by my father the second year he and my mother were…

Restless Legs cured?


Well, not the medical malady. More the moving all the time thing. My friends mock me for it, those who choose to stay put for years and years can't understand it, even the local landlords have taken to asking me prying questions about my moving history. It's true. Since I left my husband, I've moved…