On Royal Weddings, PDA, and the Preservation of Love

I'm not a royal fan, though I give the Queen all sorts of credit for serving her office with grace and charm throughout some tumultuous years. I've always been suspicious of inherited positions and wealth - it's so cynical of me because of course, I inherited privilege as well - a healthy upbringing, sort of,…

On geese, and horrible people, and fear for the future

I'm not ordinarily an anxious person. Life flows by and stuff happens and it bothers me, but I don't usually have the sense of creeping dread that envelops me now. It seems like human beings are losing their compass if indeed we ever had one.  Of course, there is the madness south of our Canadian…

Single and over sixty: solitude or sorrow?

I've recently had the chance to speak with several over-60-year-old men, and women, about relationships, being single, loneliness. Well, okay, some of these were dates. Some were laughter over dates. Some were thought provoking, others broke my heart. We all handle being alone differently. Many of the women I know who are single seem happy…

Connecting with a romantic partner

Had a recently met fellah tell me that he was amazed at all the wonderful women out in the world and that he wondered if men were keeping up. Answer: no. I believe there are so many wonderful women out on the dating sites because you men are NOT keeping up. You might look at…

Happy Year of the Snake! Or is it?

Or as many of my woman friends would say, "EEEEEKS!"What IS that? Why does it seem more women than men are afraid of snakes? According to a bunch of reports, men and women are equally afraid of snakes, and it's based on some rudimentary and ultimately sensible fear of things that can kill us. And/or…

Loving and the tummy

Okay. I'm round. I've always been round, pretty much. I've just varied in terms of degree. It's depressing, in one way - people judge me based on my weight and decide I am stupid, or lazy, or desperate for love, or have low self-esteem. None of those is true. I merely enjoy life, and all…

Sexual politics and boundaries and the messiness of both

Lately I've been involved in a bit of reading and discussion about sexual politics and etc. The politics started with the excellent book by Laura Kipnis, The Female Thing: Dirt, Sex, Envy, Vulnerability. It's well worth a read, well-written, funny, and to the point, about the foolishness of the roles we assign ourselves as women…

Vengeance is mine?

Seems to me someone said that once, and it wasn't about all of us just wandering about blowing each other's heads off.But things are getting out of hand.I was working out in the gym the other day, happily listening to some be-boppy music and watching the TVs in front of me, rather idly, through the…