Single and over sixty: solitude or sorrow?

I've recently had the chance to speak with several over-60-year-old men, and women, about relationships, being single, loneliness. Well, okay, some of these were dates. Some were laughter over dates. Some were thought provoking, others broke my heart. We all handle being alone differently. Many of the women I know who are single seem happy…

On the occasion of a horrendous election pending and the women v women way we behave

Ah, women. I am one, I think, and yet I am filled with puzzlement at them. I have a group of marvelous women friends who I adore. We all would come running to whomever needed support, would offer casseroles, muffins, homemade soup, a warm shoulder to cry upon. My friends keep me alive, make me…

On knitting

I'm a terrible knitter. I'm dead slow. I regularly drop stitches  - in fact, so regularly, one could argue they could be part of the pattern, if they weren't so varied in size. I lose track of patterns, I forget where I am. I once knitted a hat that was shaped like a Mobius Strip…

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott

I know I am by no means the first to cheer this wonderful book about writing and life and joy and jealousy and competitiveness and outgrowing that and love and loss. It's one of the MUST READ books in any writer's (or person's) collection. But I had it out last night for some inspiration and came…

Last lines…

Everyone talks about the importance of the first line in your story, long or short, but there is often such grace in the last line that they need to be mentioned. The last line can give you a punch, a feeling of "whoa!", and last lingering taste of the story, that makes it live in…

Mining memories

Was listening to CBC this morning and there was some program on it (I forget which one) about memory, about the pathways of memory, about how if we rehash memories they create rivers in our neurons, meaning they'll be easier to recall later. So, between them, and writing exercises starting "I remember", I've been digging…

Connecting with a romantic partner

Had a recently met fellah tell me that he was amazed at all the wonderful women out in the world and that he wondered if men were keeping up. Answer: no. I believe there are so many wonderful women out on the dating sites because you men are NOT keeping up. You might look at…

Serendipitous Connections

  I'm all grown up now, no kids to tow to rugby games or class performances , no parent-teacher lineups or other shared parental volunteer activities to set up friendships with other grown ups. It used to be easy to meet new folks - we were doing the same things at the same time, our kids…

Losing my religion for equality…by Jimmy Carter

Losing my religion for equality…by Jimmy Carter. I've shared this all over, but I wanted to put it in my blog so I could keep it to remember. This man. The amount of good he has done in his life is astonishing. And his perspective here is wonderful. I wish I could meet him, just…

Being an orphan

I was thinking about International Women's Day today and about the strong women I've had in my life and how damnably awful it is that so many of left life so soon. There's my mum, a ferocious lawyer woman with a witty twist of the tongue and the ability to argue paint off a wall.…